Am I Too Old to Get Divorced?

There are many reasons why couples get divorced at different points in their marriage. Some get divorced because they simply do not love their spouse any longer. Others get divorced because of infidelity. Then there are couples that divorce due to money problems. Whatever the reason, age doesn’t seem to be an issue when it comes to couples divorcing. In fact, some couples wait to get divorced until they are older. They wait for their children to become adults, get jobs, and move out of the family home.

With that, we ask the question, am I too old to get divorced?

The easy answer here is no, there’s no age limit for divorce. But, when you factor in living on Social Security, declining health, having grandchildren and more, maybe your situation calls for a deeper evaluation before deciding divorce is the right answer.

Coming to such a life-changing decision should be looked at seriously no matter your age. You can do this by answering two very important questions: Are you worth the pursuit of happiness and are you happy?

Depending on your situation, divorce could be the right solution to your marital problems. You could also decide to wait a little longer and reexamine the marriage in a few years. Loyalty continues to mount the longer people are together and some even feel stronger about remaining loyal than obtaining happiness as an individual.

The idea of getting divorced later in life, after the adult children are married off and living with their families picked up in popularity between 1990 and 2010. A study conducted by the sociology department at Bowling Green State University found that the rate of divorce for people aged 50 or older doubled between those years. In fact, in 1990, 1 out of every 10 divorces involved someone 50 or older. A decade later that number jumped to 1 out of every 4 divorces.

Divorce at the age of 50 or older is known as gray divorce. When it comes down to it, gray divorce isn’t a bad thing and it also isn’t a good thing. For the most part, men will view divorce as a positive. Women will dread it and grieve for a while afterward.

Many men who go through a gray divorce will end up thinking it was a mistake, while the women will thrive in their new situation after they have dealt with the grief divorce brings them, according to psychotherapist Tina B. Tessina.

If you are considering getting divorced and are 50 or older, you need to take the following into consideration:

  • Have confidence in the decision.
  • Remain positive.
  • Lean on a support group of friends and family.
  • Develop a new budget (retirement income is now cut in half).
  • Prepare for backlash from your spouse.
  • Alimony is sometimes awarded following a lengthy marriage, however, alimony is likely to terminate when the payor reaches retirement age.
  • If you decide to keep the house, you will give up something else.

Are you thinking about filing for divorce in Cinnaminson, New Jersey? Contact the office of Trish Davis, Esquire to schedule a consultation today. Trish serves the communities of Burlington, Camden, and Gloucester counties.