How to Lean on Support Network During Divorce

Filing for divorce from your spouse, no matter how long you’ve been married, is demoralizing. Many people feel like they have failed at one of the biggest things in life. For others, they understand why divorce is needed and even look forward to it if they were in a bad situation. Most people going through a divorce will seek support from various avenues. This includes family, friends, and various medical professionals. Here are some tips for leaning on your support network during a divorce.

Have a Network Ready Before Leaving Home

One of the most important tips to note is that you should have a support network ready prior to leaving your marital home. You don’t want to walk out of the home with nowhere to go and no one to talk to. This will make matters so much worse than they already are when going through a divorce. The minute you walk out the door you are relinquishing a source of comfort and security. You want to be able to go somewhere to talk with someone when the time comes.

Keep Communication Fluid

When going through a divorce you will want to keep the lines of communication with members of your support network very fluid. Whether you make phone calls, send text messages, or meet in-person or it’s the other way around; you need to keep all lines of communication open at all times. Divorce is not cut and dry. You might run into a difficult situation in the middle of the night. At least one person from your support network should have no problem answering your call or meeting you at a diner for a late-night snack or cup of coffee. This can go a long way in the healing process.

Ask for Favors

Divorce is difficult. It becomes even more difficult when there are children involved. This is where you really need to use your support network. Don’t be afraid to ask for favors, especially when they center around your children. You will need help getting the kids to and from school, doctor appointments, and after-school activities. You won’t be able to do it alone. Enlist the help of your parents, friends, parents of your children’s friends and others in your support network. Never have the notion that you have to do it all by yourself.

Have Fun

Just because you are going through a divorce it doesn’t mean you can no longer have fun, especially when it comes to going out with friends. You will need to let loose every now and then. Go out to dinner. See a movie. Go get drinks. You need to make a rule though that these nights out with friends are for having fun. There shouldn’t be any discussion of the divorce or your former spouse.

Are you looking to file for divorce in New Jersey? Contact the office of Trish Davis, Esquire in Cinnaminson to schedule a consultation about your situation. The office can be reached via phone at 856-829-9204 or via the website’s contact form.